Do not wait for the external validation of who you are internally. Do not wait for another to love before you allow yourself to love yourself. We are all uniquely placed in this world. We all have joy to claim. There is no need to postpone happiness. Only to embrace it and choose love over fear. Think about it and you will see.
a man bikes up a hill.
he struggles. survives.
his joy, visceral and pure,
for a moment strangers shared.
when one cries, the many weep.
when one flourishes, the many rise.
each of us one, all of us none.
together we become, together we exist.
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Inspired by Christopher McCandless’ quote, “happiness only real when shared…”
Do you ever wake up and feel like something INCREDIBLE is going to happen? I don’t know what it is but something’s dancing in the air:
air fresh with spring rain,
sky blueier against swirly whipped clouds,
flowers prouder with rain drop jewelry,
birds full of alacrity shimmy and sing;
together they welcome a new day of possibilities.
Indeed, SOMEthing dances in the air and hope and faith have won this day!
All this week I’d been focusing on what I didn’t have in my life, or on the complaints of others. I was negative and icky and sad and mad. A good cry can be rewarding. Just as anger can be motivating, or boredom…. and I embrace this past week of suffering for it allowed me to truly value what matters most. I see myself in full light and accept that all is ephemeral and perfect at all times.
I woke up this morning and I had a great feeling. It could be because I finally rested. It could be because I watched a wonderfuly romantic movie last night. It could be that I painted finally for the first time in a long time. Whatever it is – I went outside and felt amazing! The world was so inviting I felt like a Disney princess in that I could probably talk to the animals if I wanted to.
Thinking back on this morning and now on this day I wonder what changed. Circumstances are pricisely the same. So what changed? Was it me? Or am I reacting to something? What is it about this day that has me feeling like a child who woke up on her birthday? If the former, how can I generate such feelings and awareness everyday? If the later, how do I identify the original source of this happiness and seek it out again in the future? But perhaps it’s not meant to linger? Happiness and sorrow like ying and yang must co-exist. Such a realization convinces me to stop typing and to go out into this world and enjoy the ephemeral happiness that is now. For everything is changing around us at all times and we must capture the joy in the moment. The joy of beauty and glee, or the joy in release of crying or frustration.
Today I feel beautiful because I know I am perfectly imperfect.
Today is just another beautiful day. Full of possibility and promise, I woke up wondering what I would venture out into the world to do. Indeed, I was in a great mood until I wasn’t. Somehow as the day moved forward I was grumpy, anxious, tight, and worrying worrying worrying about the afternoon, tomorrow, next week, 2 months from now, and so on and so on. My breathing was shallow and I did not feel like I was living the happy and fulfilling life that my recent facebook status would lead others to believe. And, and and…. and then just more words kept spilling out of my head.
ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ….
Why do we do this to ourselves? All the negative thinking that often times we, or at least I know for sure I, am hardly aware of. And simply by acknowledging it I began to ease away from it. I thought to myself, when did this attitude begin? Was it was really as simple as walking past someone with a sour face that I began to notice all the little other sour items that lay before me? We really have so much power to impact our surroundings and I had let one man’s attitude impact mine and allowed mine to suficate the goodness from my day.
Okay, perhaps I’m being a wee bit dire – but what I did was check-in. I checked-in with myself, my body, my feelings, my thinking, and then made an active choice to live right now…. to notice my surroundings, be thankful of my full belly, to breathe in fully and exhale fully, to smile, and to lay to rest all of the doubts and shoulds I was jabbing my psyche with.
That said, I also had an urge to write. I’ve fallen off the wagon with this project I began a year ago today, but as the one-year anniversary of the start of my life approaches I will add some new posts and get on the ball with this whole writing thing…
With love in my heart and good will to anyone reading this – be happy now!! ❤
today i was thinking back to a few years ago – on relationships, jobs, school, family, email conversations, IM conversations, friendships… and similar other type things. I began to contemplate my actions and wonder on what I could have changed about myself to produce better outcomes.
And my answer was: too much. I was trying too hard in all aspects of my life. I strained relationships, friendships, and family bonds… added tension to almost everything I touched… raised stress levels and forgot to breath. I’ve been utterly exhausted this year and I think I just now discovered the simiplest explanation for all of it — I’ve been trying too hard. To be something I’m not. To give a great impression of myself rather than just being myself. I’ve been working hard and not smart. I’ve thrown my energy in negative thinking, meaningless work, worrying, and presentation.
And looking back, now, it seems so pointless. None of that effort got me a raise, or a relationship, or better communication with those that I love. I just worked hard with no results. And when I relaxed – gave up – didn’t care or concern myself with other’s opinions or the past or the future… when I finally just let go… it was then that love and happiness found me. I got my breath back and I got my smile back. My authentic smile.
Today I tell myself constantly: enjoy this moment; breath; relax; release the tension in th muscles. I started bike riding to and from work as a way to slow down my day, my mind, and get into the present moment. To get in the mode of doing and thinking one thing – rather than multi-tasking several in body and mind.
So if you’re reading this, please think abotu whether you can check into your life and devise a way to let go. Remember that every moment is precious. A gift. And possibly even the secret to living — the pure simplicity of this moment. Relaxing in bed, writing, reading, listening to music, preparing a meal, caring for someone else, listening to someone else…. just be in the moment and feel free. And smile. And know that everything will be OK. You don’t need to figure everything out today. Just live and just love.